The Power of “I was wrong”

Now I know that is definitely not an “I’ve just GOT To read this” title. And I agree, if there’s one thing that makes me inwardly cringe, is admitting when I am wrong. And I know I am not alone in that!

And have you noticed the way children are raised in “Progressive“ households? It leaves a lot to be desired. Never has there been a time like the present where parents refuse to tell their children when they are wrong. In a bid to reduce the epidemic of anxiety, most parents have chosen appeasement instead of correction. The result? Even more of these precious ones being raised without the resilience and strength of character needed to navigate to life.

We are a nation that has come to believe that we are right, even when we are actually wrong. We have a way of convincing ourselves - we have this internal monologue. It goes something like this: 

“Well I know that I shouldn’t have said. XXX, but what about the time when THEY did XXX”? 

Or we may give really lame apologies, like:

“I’m sorry, I hurt you, but you shouldn’t have XXX.”

Now my aim here is not to offend, but I would like to offer a piece of advice: can you move your “but“? 😂

If you’re going to apologise, let it be real - you know, from your heart, with a full stop at the end. If there’s one problem with society, I would say it’s  the lack of accountability. In case you haven’t noticed, there are several world wars threatening / raging even as I write this. And right at the core of these wars is an absolute absence of accountability.

But let’s think about ourselves as individuals. Let’s take a real honest look on the inside of ourselves. Just us and God. Do you have a trail of broken relationships? Are you carrying the pain of those broken relationships? Would you like to be free from that burden? The frustration, the anger…the unforgiveness? Do you remember that saying: “Unforgiveness is like taking poison and hoping the other person will suffer“? 

I believe in the Power of “I was wrong“. I’ve literally watched years of hostilities and divisions melt away before my eyes by speaking those words. Why? Because it allowed the Holy Spirit’s presence in, right at that moment, to restore peace.

There are two sides to every argument. And in your quiet time, with just you and the Lord, instead of thinking about what someone else has done to you, have a think about your own response to it. I’ve learned that life really isn’t about what’s happened to us - It’s more about how we come out on the other side. As Joyce Meyer says: “bitter or better”? For a moment, take the focus away from them, and place it on yourself. Now don’t get me wrong, I wouldn’t want anyone to go off on a guilt trip - that’s not what this is about. This is about owning our share in our own wrongdoing, and bringing our tender and precious heart to the one person in the world we can trust with it. Jesus. The only one who took all of our wrongdoings – sins– when he was the only one who was completely innocent. He had more right to be offended than anyone, regardless of how terribly you’ve been treated. But as you bring these very private and heartfelt issues before him, I believe he will release you from your burdens, and heal your relationships. I believe that relationships with estranged children, husbands, wives, friends and relatives will be wonderfully restored in a way that all of your arguments could never have resolved. I strongly believe that the one who opens deaf ears and releases the tongues of the dumb so that they can speak, can also heal every conflict: 

“And they were astonished beyond measure, saying, “He has done all things well. He makes both the deaf to hear and the mute to speak.””

‭‭Mark‬ ‭7‬:‭37‬ ‭NKJV‬‬

https://bible.com/bible/114/mrk.7.37.NKJV

 Jesus does all things well. 

Now, I can’t guarantee that’s when you begin to take Your first tentative steps towards healing those relationships that it will be plain sailing. There’s always a chance that the other person may not receive what you have to say in the way you would want them to. Just know that regardless, you have sought to carry out the Lord’s will, and given him space to work for you. Your job now is to keep that person (or those people ) in prayer, and allow God to continue to work on your heart. We are all a work in progress! 

My friends, find rest in Him now. Don’t wait - time is short. Do it now. 

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Peacebrown. 🙏🏽☺️